PALMYRA, Pa. (AP) — It was a radical idea, and for many years she had been resistant.
But as Zoey Stapleton, 24, walked down a darkened hiking trail, steps behind her parents, she counted back from three and “took a leap of faith,” revealing to them that she wanted to become a nun.
And though there were moments of silence that evening in the woods just over a year ago, the news of her decision — and eventual acceptance into a religious institute — didn’t come as a complete surprise to her parents, who say their faith deepened because of their daughter’s.
Stapleton, a recent graduate of Franciscan University, a Catholic college in Ohio, will be among the less than 1% of nuns in the United States today who are 30 or younger. That number has remained steady in the past decade but shows little signs of increasing.
Between 100 and 200 young women enter into a religious vocation each year in the U.S. Some never complete the process to become a nun.
Those who do are giving up many trappings of modern life — dating, material wealth, sometimes even cell phones and fashionable clothes — for the sake of an immersive religious life and intergenerational community, at a time when the average age of an American nun is 80.
Just this year Pope Francis urged orders to pray harder for more priests and nuns as he acknowledged the number of men and women entering Catholic religious life continues to plummet in parts of the world, including Europe and the U.S. The number of nuns in the U.S. peaked in 1965 at 178,740, and declined to 39,452 by 2022, according the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at Georgetown University.
There are just over 500 communities of women religious in the U.S., and most have 50 or fewer members, according to Thomas Gaunt, CARA's executive director.
“Those communities that have younger members and are fairly active tend to attract other younger members,” he said.
Stapleton — raised a Catholic, and having attended Catholic schools from pre-K to college — was familiar with nuns, but it was with the Franciscan Sisters, T.O.R. of Penance of the Sorrowful Mother that she found a deeper connection.
“I just found that they were very personally invested with me as a person, not just as a possible sister,” said Stapleton.
In August, she and two other women joined the community nestled in the hills of Toronto, Ohio, as postulants.
The former college tennis player and coach has even found an athletic bond with the sisters.
“They really love being active,” Stapleton said. “I’ve played a vicious game of soccer with them before and ultimate Frisbee. There’s blood and sweat. It’s awesome.”
From sharing flip phones to wearing habits, nuns choose a radical life
The Franciscan Sisters, T.O.R, were founded in 1988 — newer than many religious communities.
Others established in that era include the Sisters of Life, which is active in anti-abortion causes and which Stapleton briefly considered joining.
“They’re a very blooming order right now. They have a lot of vocations, praise God,” she said. Over the past 30 years they’ve grown from 10 members to more than 120, according to Gaunt.
Both communities are part of the Council of Major Superiors of Women Religious, a U.S. association of orders often seen as more conservative than its larger counterpart, the Leadership Conference of Women Religious.
Before entering the order, Stapleton said one of the challenging transitions would be to give up her sense of style and wear the habit.
“I’m a big pro-habit girl,” she said. “You’re supposed to be a sign of contradiction in the world. If you look like everyone else, they’re not going to know who you’re living for.”
The order’s patron saint, Francis of Assisi, led a life of poverty. In emulation, the sisters dress in modest habits consisting of a long white veil and gray robes that many choose to pair with modern sandals. The sisters think of this as their wedding garments as “brides” of Christ.
The women abstain from other forms of modernity, using only a set of shared flip phones and the internet when necessary for their ministry.
More than anything, Stapleton was drawn to this community because of the joy and freedom in the sisters’ relationship with the Lord. “I think it connected with that part of me like wanting to express actually how much I do love the Lord,” she said.
Sister Philomena Clare DeHitta, whose ministry as vocations director is to facilitate the freedom to choose and “articulate the desire to live a radical life,” describes their community as unique in spirituality and size.
“There are communities that have a more broad apostolate or spirituality that is just easier for women to enter into,” she said. “Historically our classes have been small.”
Some religious communities are more contemplative or cloistered away from the world, while others are active in professions and missions outside of their convents or monasteries. The Franciscan sisters describe themselves as a blend.
Although there have been many new communities officially recognized since the Second Vatican Council, CARA's Gaunt describes them as just a “drop in the bucket” when looking at the larger context of decline.
“There are new religious communities starting all the time,” he said, “and there are older religious communities going out of existence.”
Student loan debt can be a barrier to a religious vocation
To truly begin the journey of becoming a nun, a woman is asked to relinquish worldly possessions, meeting the expectation of poverty. That includes debt, which can be an issue for educated young women today.
“Like almost half of all those discerning in the U.S., I’m blocked from my vocation because of student loans,” said Katie Power, a graduate of Franciscan University like Stapleton.
The 23-year-old from Eau Claire, Wisconsin, is currently an aspirant with the Carmelites of St. Thérèse of Lisieux, in Loretto, Pennsylvania, a cloistered community.
Power found support through the Labouré Society, a Catholic nonprofit that helps young women discerning religious life pay off their student loan debt by gathering donations so they may enter their vocation.
“It is a beautiful program because if I discern out — I hope I don’t — I would take on my loan payments again,” Power said. Money for her loans would then be passed to another candidate.
Over recent months, Power has shared her call to religious life with church communities and other groups in pursuit of donations that will go toward debt relief.
“I was at a Mass on campus at Franciscan and just experienced the most beautiful intimacy with Jesus in the Eucharist,” recalled Power, knowing at that moment she wanted to remain in communion with God. “Ultimately, that’s the cloistered life.”
She hopes to be officially debt-free soon, and then join the Carmelites as a postulant in the summer.
About half of prospective nuns complete the long process to make final vows
On average the full process to become a Catholic sister takes 7 to 10 years.
Commonly one enters as a postulant and lives at least part-time with the order. A woman is officially called a sister when she enters the novitiate stage followed by the canonical novitiate, which is a year dedicated to prayer and studying the vows of the order.
Then, she makes temporary vows and finally perpetual, or final vows.
For Sister Seyram Mary Adzokpa, there was the added challenge of discerning her vocation during a global pandemic.
It forced the now 30-year-old millennial to meet members of the Sisters of the Holy Family over video calls. A nurse by training, she made the decision at 27 to join the order without ever visiting the community, a common tradition called a “come and see.”
In September 2021, she and her family made the trip from Texas to the order in New Orleans. The sisters told her, “If I liked what I saw, I could stay. And if not, I was free to go,” Adzokpa said.
Nearly three years later, in August, her family returned to the motherhouse to watch her make temporary vows.
Just behind the motherhouse sits St. Mary’s Academy, a K-12 school run by the order. Across the street the Lafon Nursing Facility of the Holy Family, where a number of aging sisters are cared for.
Unlike the Franciscan Sisters, T.O.R., whose median age is 40, the Sisters of the Holy Family, one of the few religious orders founded for Black women in the United States two decades before the Civil War, is among the majority of communities today whose members are on average 80 years old.
But the New Orleans order continues accepting new vocations, as prospective members are called, unlike many communities that have had to merge or plan to close.
There are three women currently aspiring to join the community, but not all who discern religious life join and not all who join stay.
About 50% of all who enter religious life stay for their final vows, according to Sister Debbie Borneman, director of mission integration with the National Religious Vocation Conference. “There’s no stigma behind that," she adds.
Intergenerational living fosters joy and purpose
The Venerable Henriette DeLille and two other women founded the Sisters of the Holy Family in 1837.
Today, Adzokpa is one of four women younger than 40 in the community, which welcomes vocations of any race.
She is among just 6% of U.S. women religious who are Black, African American and or African. The majority remains Anglo-Caucasian, with 10% Latino, and 13% Asian, Pacific Islander and Hawaiian, according to a 2020 survey from CARA.
But the population is slowly changing, following the larger Catholic Church in the U.S.
“I think that newer entrants, they value interculturality. And also, I know they value intergenerational living,” said Borneman.
Mindful of the older members, Adzokpa continues to use her nursing skills.
“There was the assumption that going into the convent, you would lose your career,” she said. “However, that was not the case. I guess that’s kind of why you find where you can serve with your gifts.”
As a novice she would wake each morning around 5 a.m. After personal prayers, Adzokpa quietly walks the second floor of the motherhouse, softly knocking on the doors of a handful of sisters, calling out their names and offering her assistance.
She continued her ministry after clearing breakfast trays, taking the sisters’ blood pressure, or checking heart rates, all in collaboration with the paid nursing staff.
“I truly find it God’s grace that I’m able to not feel isolated, even though the age gap is tremendous,” said Adzokpa with a gentle smile. “I enjoy sitting with them, talking with them, easing their aches and pains and just being around them. It’s fulfilling.”
The sister seemed to carry that smile everywhere she went. She wore it while picking figs in the yard and swimming in the pool. And as the sun shone down on her through the stained-glass windows at morning Mass.
“The joy is undeniable,” she said. “I made a deal with Jesus. I said, OK, ‘I love being here. However, if this joy, if this smile starts to dissipate, I don’t know if I’m going to continue here.’ And he has been faithful.”
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Jessie Wardarski, The Associated Press
